Originally I used actual papers, like free weekend journals from #Waitrose, or magazines to create scrapbook poems. However, during #digiwrimo someone shared things they had done with #Bazaart on iPad and I became hooked on creating digital scrapbook poems. My favourite app for iPad is still Bazaart but on Android I am using #PhotoLab Pro and #Snapseed.
I haven’t written much poetry lately, but continued to explore mixed media art projects. And I began a new series on my Instagram account @storyfae called ‘Truisms’. I wanted to explore these ubiquitous phrases–often used without much thought–and contemplate their meaning again.
So there is always one truism accompanied by another image with a challenge, question, or thought relating to this truism.
Rest is important
Hang in there
Just move any which way
You can always start anew
Don’t forget to be proud of your achievements no matter how small or big they are
You do you, this includes your pace. Life is a journey not a competition
I wanted to explore the notion of the seeking student, what if we think about the teacher
Today I am not sharing my own work, but the work of my partner. He has worked in light-design for over 17 years, and on parental alienation day 2019, finally decided to create his own designs. The development took about a month, and as any good perfectionist, there are much more and more sophisticated things to be done if there would have been more time. The LED screen is 7×2 meters.
I wanted to use colour and movement within the words displayed to highlight my own personal fears, anxieties, worries, and hate (anger) in dealing with parental alienation What inspired me were a lot of the words from various Twitter, Facebook, Blogs account of people talking about their own experiences of dealing with Parental Alienation and how they miss their kids, and the fights they have with systems that are adversarial; who choose to have a winner and a looser.
The other part of the inspiration (or admiration) is how, even after 10/12 years of battling with everything being against them in most cases they eventually are able to have an ongoing relationship with their kids. The saddest ones I have not talked about are the relationships that have not been fixed, the utterly completely broken relationships, and how it affects the targeted parents and the children as well, and sometimes it doesn’t get fixed, and it is such a loss of time, such a loss of time.
How did you go about developing the installation?
How I have done it is: this is just a tiny glimpse into how I feel about parental alienation. There is so much more that you could say; you could spend years researching PA and come up with so many different scenarios and situations and feelings and words. What I am trying to say is … the more I get into it; the more feeling I get behind it, and hopefully I can express better how I deal with it or how I am not dealing with it as an alienated parent myself.
What do you want to achieve?
I want to give a voice to the unseen who are lost in an adversarial system who chooses to establish winners and losers, and ultimately fails our children.
This is the glossary for the Abbreviations Section:
SAID – Sexual Allegations in Divorce CIAF – Child Impact Assessment Service VotC – Voice of the Child CMS – Child Maintenance Service CSA – Child Support Agency PASG – Parental Alienation Study Group PAAO – Parental Alienation Awareness Organisation Cafcass – Children and family court advisory and support Service NAAP – National Association of Alienated Parents MATCH – Mothers apart from their children FNF – Families need Fathers JUMP – Jewish Unity for Multiple Parenting FPS – Family Psychology Solutions DADs – Dads Against Double Standards PAPA – Parents Against Parental Alienation F4J – Fathers for justice SPARK – Support for the Parentally Alienated thru Random Acts of Kindness PTSD – Post Traumatic Stress Disorder WHO – World Health Organisation AAPA – Association Against Parental Alienation PAS – Parental Alienation Syndrome SPAN – Stop Parental Alienation Now PAWWSG – Parental Alienation World Wide Support Group FRI – Fathers Rights Ireland EAPAP – European Association of Parental Alientation Practitioners PAAA – Parental Alienation Awareness Association HAP – Hostile Aggressive Parenting PAA – Parental Alienation Awareness NAOPAS – National Association of Parental Alienation Specialists PASI – PAS Intervention NPO – National Parents Organization NPAF – NATIONAL PARENTAL ALIENATION FOUNDATION CSPAS – Canadian Symposium For Parental Alienation Syndrome PAD – Parental Alienation Disorder ECTHR – European Court of Human Rights ECHR – European Convention of Human Rights HRA – Human Rights Act Unicef – UN Convention on the Rights of the Child PEF – Platform for Europeans Fathers ICD-11 – WHO International Classification of Diseases JM2P – I Love My 2 Parents APIPDF – Association for Parental Equality and Children’s Rights BOLD – bubbles of love day HCS – High Conflict Separations CAFE – Canadian Association for Equality
When we were on holiday, I was experimenting with writing in nature–or writing with nature. The ebb and flow of the ocean, having to relent to the power of the water, made me contemplate the ever changing nature of our environment but also our selves. I thought what if we just relent, let go, let go of pain, fear, guild, shame? Let the waves wash them away?
Wash away hate
Wash away your sorrow
I tried to write down the themes that often burden survivors of trauma. Verlustangst = fear of loosing, usually a loved one Unzulänglichkeit = the feeling of inadequacy Pain Shame Sorrow Fear
Then set up a time lapse of the incoming tide washing away the writing in the sand. Wash away the pain. Wash away the sorrow. Wash away the pain.
Timelapse of incoming tide washing away the writing in the sand
Storyfae 